Why I Wrote 44 Laws of Self-Love (And How It Can Change Your Life)

We all want to love ourselves. At least, that’s what every quote on Instagram, every podcast, and every self-help book tells us to do. But let’s be real—no one ever teaches us how.

That’s where 44 Laws of Self-Love comes in.

This isn’t just another book telling you why you should love yourself (you probably already know why). And it’s not about giving you a cookie-cutter “how-to” either—because let’s be honest, self-love isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s messy. It’s deeply personal. It’s a journey only you can take.

So why did I write this book?

Because I wanted to create something I wish existed in my early 20s as I was navigating a tough season in life and I had to read a 100 books just to understand myself.

The 3 Pillars That Changed Everything

At the core of this book is Selophy’s 3-pillar framework: Acceptance, Healing, and Growth.

These pillars are deeply connected.
You can’t truly grow without healing first.
You can’t heal without first accepting where you are.

I broke them down into 44 simple, powerful laws because as humans, we crave simplicity. We want concepts we can understand at their core—so we can finally dig deeper into the complex layers of who we are.

Think about it:
You can’t master the hard stuff if you don’t even understand the basics.

And that’s what this book does—it simplifies self-love into clear, digestible truths that target every part of you: emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

It’s not just words on a page.
It’s a guide.
It’s a mirror.
It’s an invitation back to yourself.

Why I Wrote This Book

As someone who’s read countless self-love and self-help books, I often found them inspiring… but incomplete.

They told me why I should love myself.
They explained how life-changing it would be.
Some even gave a “how” to get started.

But the “how” always felt shallow—like putting a band-aid on a deep wound.

Because here’s the truth:
The “how” isn’t something I can give you.
It’s something only you can figure out.
Self-love is an insanely personal journey.

So I didn’t write this book to tell you how to love yourself.
I wrote it to ask you the right questions.
To hold space for your story.
To guide you—not to fix you.

Because you’re not broken.

This Book Was Written For You

I believe with every part of me that you deserve love and happiness.
And it’s not some faraway, unattainable dream. It’s possible.

My hope is that 44 Laws of Self-Love will help you:

• Fall deeply in love with yourself.

• Live your most authentic life.

• And lead with love and contentment in every season.

You don’t need someone to tell you how to be you.
You just need a guide to help you remember who you already are.

This is that guide.
This is your permission to begin.

Get your copy of 44 Laws of Self-Love today and start your journey back to you.